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Saat terbaik untuk melakukan hal yang benar adalah sekarang. Menunda adalah habit baru yang populer saat ini. Dengan kemajuan informasi, mudah untuk mengetahui atau membedakan bagaimana melakukan hal yang benar. Dulu orang hidup dengan cara yang menurut mereka benar, saat ini ada berbagai macam cara untuk mendapatkan informasi bagaimana kita melakukan sesuatu dengan lebih efektif dan efisien, atau lebih jauh bagaimana melakukan sesuatu dengan benar.

Kita hidup di era dimana informasi yang kita dapat jauh lebih banyak dari yang kita mampu terapkan. Kendalanya adalah, tidak setiap kita merespon dengan benar setiap informasi yang kita dapatkan tersebut.

Secara khusus bagi yang bergereja, setiap minggu kita mendapatkan kebenaran yang baru, pertanyaannya adalah, berapa persen dari kebenaran tersebut yang mampu kita lakukan? Dan bukankah ada hal hal yang terus kita lakukan, meskipun kita tahu bahwa kita perlu berubah?

Alasan utama seseorang menunda perubahan dalam hidupnya (insider's look) antara lain:

Mahalnya Perubahan

Selalu ada resistensi apabila kita ingin mengubah sesuatu. Ada cost, atau biaya untuk melakukan perubahan. Dan hal ini bersifat universal dalam segala hal:

Dalam bisnis, seseorang perlu memikirkan biaya apabila ingin mengubah haluan bisnisnya. Salah satu perusahaan terbesar di dunia, khususnya di bidang elektronik di Korea, sedang mengarah dalam perubahan besar. Mereka dikenal dari produksi komponen, mulai berubah dalam 10 tahun terakhir untuk produksi smartphone, menjadi yang terbaik dari sisi penjualan, namun mereka tahu mereka perlu berubah. Perusahaan ini sedang aktif mengembangkan solar panel, LED, obat obatan biotek untuk mengembangkan usahanya. Dan biaya yang mereka gelontorkan untuk perubahan adalah sebesar $20 milyar dalam 10 tahun ke depan. Tidak heran, jika nama perusahaan ini akan tetap jaya, jauh setelah demam smartphone berakhir nanti.

Dalam studi, biaya pendidikan adalah sesuatu yang selalu ada di setiap jenjang pendidikan. Mengapa orang mau membayar untuk melakukan sesuatu yang tidak mereka senangi (belajar)? Perubahan. Dosen di salah satu perguruan tinggi di Bandung mengatakan bahwa kuliah sebenarnya adalah proses mengubah cara berpikir.

Dalam hubungan, akan selalu ada pengorbanan yang diperlukan dalam mengubah pergaulan. Semakin lama bergaul dengan seseorang, akan membuat harga perubahan semakin mahal. Semakin banyak kita memberikan atau menerima dari seseorang, semakin sulit kita bila ditinggalkan orang tersebut.

Pertanyaan utama adalah, apakah pengorbanan saya untuk berubah sebanding dengan apa yang saya dapatkan jika saya berubah?

Apakah mengubah haluan bisnis sebanding dengan potensi keuntungan, menjawab kebutuhan lebih banyak orang di masa depan? Apakah mengubah cara berpikir sebanding dengan kesempatan kerja, memenuhi panggilan Tuhan dengan lebih baik? Apakah mengubah pergaulan / hubungan saat ini sebanding dengan kebiasaan dan hubungan hubungan lain yang lebih baik yang dipersiapkan Tuhan untuk kita?

Lalu Yesus berkata kepada murid-murid-Nya: “Setiap orang yang mau mengikut Aku, ia harus menyangkal dirinya, memikul salibnya dan mengikut Aku. (Matius 16:24 TB)

Disorientasi Kebenaran

Orang yang menghabiskan waktu terlalu lama dalam mediocrity, akan menganggap mediocrity atau kesuaman adalah sesuatu yang normal. Banyak orang lebih takut meninggalkan zona nyaman dalam mediokritas, dibandingkan mengambil langkah keluar dan hidup dalam standar yang lebih tinggi, yang lebih baik.

 

Kalo Tuhan sudah persiapkan yang terbaik, kenapa kita cepat puas dengan sesuatu yang sekedar baik?

 

Masalahnya adalah, Tuhan tidak mati cuma supaya hidup kita OK dan sekedar baik baik saja. Setiap orang diciptakan dengan tujuan unik dan panggilan yang lebih besar dari hidup masing masing orang.

 

Tetapi seperti ada tertulis: “Apa yang tidak pernah dilihat oleh mata, dan tidak pernah didengar oleh telinga, dan yang tidak pernah timbul di dalam hati manusia: semua yang disediakan Allah untuk mereka yang mengasihi Dia.” (1 Korintus 2:9 TB)


If you tried to bury a right thing to do, but it keeps coming back to you somehow, NOW is the right time to apply it. Do that business, learn that new knowledge, leave that bad habit, embrace right relationship and be a better person.

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One of the hardest truths early on in church planting is discerning who is with you and who is not. As I have worked with people, I’ve learned there are six categories into which someone falls. Categorizing people is helpful to determine where to focus your time and energy and to wake you up to the reality that some people, despite their excitement and interest, simply are not on board.

1. Family

These are the folks who are all-in. They’ve caught the vision and want to help in any way possible. They are servant-leaders and their commitment is apparent via a verbal conversation in which they express it. It is important to realize that simply showing up at things does not make someone part of the family (consistency does not necessarily equal commitment). A better gauge is to combine their consistency with their language. Folks who are in the family use phrases with first-personal plurals like “our church” or “we can do this.”

2. Fence

These are people who are interested in what you’re doing, excited about what you’re doing, have come to one or more of your vision meetings, or otherwise expressed their interest/excitement. People in this category require patience. Often people on the fence are plugged in to other church communities, and asking them to uproot from that to join what you’re doing is a complicated decision and process. I tell people on the fence that we are not in the business of stealing people from other churches, but to cast the vision and trust that the Holy Spirit will do his job.

One of the hardest truths early on in church planting is discerning who is with you and who is not.

In a church plant, people on the fence ultimately have to be called by the church planter to commitment. A church plant consisting only of interested and excited people (but with no commitment) will fail. This is the category where the most time and prayer will be spent. In addition, a prayerful ear to the Spirit’s prompting of when to call them to commit must be discerned. The goal is to move people from the fence to the family or discern if perhaps they are simply a “friend.”

3. Fans

On Facebook, having a lot of fans is great; in a church plant—not so much. Fans love what you’re doing, express their excitement, follow you on Twitter, meet you for coffee, let you buy them lunch, but never come to anything that you organize. Fans are typically podcasting Driscoll, reading Piper, and can give you the latest update on Chandler’s cancer faster than it takes for you to find it on the web.

Fans will suck the energy out of you. Often people in this category are another “F” word I like to use: “floaters.” They don’t have a church home, and float from one church to another, avoiding commitment, and seeing themselves as getting “fed” from guys they podcast. Fans love to talk about terms like “gospel-centered” and “missionally-focused” but fail to ever translate their talk to their walk.

Fans need to be quickly moved to the fence or the farm or they will consume your time and distract you from the mission.

4. Friends

Friends are typically gospel-centered people who are playing in the same league but on a different team. They are interested in what you’re doing, realize the importance of it, and want to support you in any way they can, but in the end are plugged-into and committed to another church. Friends are great, but they’re not family. You can call on friends for practical help and outside advice, but when you’re trying to build a family, sometimes you have to limit your time with friends.

5. Farm

The farm is made up of people who were on the fence and turned out not to be in the family when you called them to commit, or folks who were fans that you simply had to move to the farm, as they were much more interested in hanging out in the grandstands than ever making it onto the field. Instead of being all-in, they’ve verbally or non-verbally stated that they are out. The sad reality of a church planter is that once people are on the farm, it is typically a distraction from the mission to continue to pursue them. If they want to rejoin the fence, trust that they will on their own.

6. Foes

Foes are the critics and the opposite of “family.” We’ve had a few of these in our short history as a church plant, including one lady who accused me of trying to attract people to our church with beer, and another I’ve never met who sent me an email with some poor exegesis of 1 Timothy 3 and tried to tell me that I was not qualified to be an elder. I would have liked to meet her.

As a church planter, you will have a growing family, people on the fence, a host of fans, some good friends, a growing farm, and a number of foes. Your goal is to call people to commit and determine who’s in the family so that you can march forward with your mission to reach the unreached for Christ.

Here are some ideas How to deal with haters, how to benefit from them as well:

1. It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it. What matters is how many people do.

“It’s critical in social media, as in life, to have a clear objective and not to lose sight of that,”  TimFerriss

If your objective is to do the greatest good for the greatest number of people or to change the world in some small way (be it through a product or service), you only need to pick your first 1,000 fans — and carefully. As long as you’re accomplishing your objectives, that 1,000 will lead to a cascading effect. The 10 million that don’t get it don’t matter.

2. 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it.

People are least productive in reactive mode. If you are expecting resistance and attackers, you can choose your response in advance, as opposed to reacting inappropriately. This will only multiply the problem. There are so many people committing social media suicide all the time by one of two ways. Firstly by responding to all criticism, meaning you’re never going to find time to complete important milestones of your own, and by responding to things that don’t warrant a response.

3. “Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” (Colin Powell)

If you treat everyone the same and respond to everyone by apologizing or agreeing, you’re not going to be recognizing the best performers, and you’re not going to be improving the worst performers. That guarantees you’ll get more behavior you don’t want and less you do. Be tactical and strategic when you do.

4. “If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative.” (Scott Boras)

It is a reminder that the best people in almost any field are almost always the people who get the most criticism. The bigger your impact and the larger the ambition and scale of your project, the more negativity you’ll encounter.

5. “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” (Epictetus)

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. Learn to enjoy criticism over the years. To do anything remotely interesting you need to train yourself to be effective at dealing with, responding to, even enjoying criticism.

6. “Living well is the best revenge.” (George Herbert)

The best way to counter-attack a hater is to make it blatantly obvious that their attack has had no impact on you. That, and show how much fun you’re having!. The best revenge is letting haters continue to live with their own resentment and anger, which most of the time has nothing to do with you in particular. If a vessel contains acid and you pour some on an object, it’s still the vessel that sustains the most damage. Don’t get angry, don’t get even — focus on living well and that will eat at them more than anything you can do.

7. Keep calm and carry on.

The slogan “Keep Calm and Carry On” was originally produced by the British government during the Second World War as a propaganda message to comfort people in the face of Nazi invasion. Focus on impact, not approval. If you believe you can change the world, which I hope you do, do what you believe is right and expect resistance and expect attackers. “Keep calm and carry on!”

Everybody can get their best life, but not all of them reaching it, some are living the worst out of their life.

but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life ~John 4:14

When you drink from the fountain of life, you will never thirst again. You can look to find answers to your life, but once you find the truth and receive Him, you will know things.

Once you drank, you start to be awaken within. Receiving Christ is the beginning; it will spring out like fountain just like His. Spirit ~ soul ~ mind~ body. We are born disconnected from the Lord spiritually. Once we are born again, our spirit comes alive.

Our body got desires, appetite, impulses and most of them are at war with higher value inside of us. When we turn them loose, there come disaster and problems in our life. Some people behave based on mind (thinking), something that won’t satisfy their life. This is where imagination, likes/dislikes.

The water of life pour down to the area of the Spirit. The spirit comes alive and fills the soul, mind, body, and then everything. All creativity, comes from connection with God, will come alive once the spirit alive. This is the beginning of our best life.

It will become a river flowing out of us to become a river, and become a blessing for everybody else. This is the river of life, where it heals everything; recover everything, things become alive (including the ministry, community, etc.) Joy will spring out from inside of you.

The Devil really wants to block these things. They will throw:

  1. Stones: cynical, bitterness
  2. Dirt: our spirit can get defiled. It’s different with sin. It comes from watching, reading, hearing something that don’t appropriate and it’s unavoidable.
  3. Dead animals: we just go through the motion, we are dead inside, just do things as a routine. When we let ourselves surrounded with spiritually dead people, we become defiled ourselves.

They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts ~ Ephesians 4:18

If we don’t wash these defiling stuffs, they will grow up and corrupt our heart. Corruption happens from deep down inside our souls. We will expect negative things, but there are ways that we can get it cleansed:

  1. Blood of Jesus: only elements that cleanse sins, nothing we can do to help it. This what set us free.
  2. The Word of God: cleanse our soul, as we read the bible
  3. Fellowship: surround yourself with right people
  4. Worship: renewing in the Holy Spirit

We have to make boundaries in our life, place that we can go, or we can’t. There’s lot of people wreck themselves alive because they have no boundaries in life.

There are cleansing for anybody who found themselves defiled and corrupted. We shouldn’t pretend living a glossy life when deep inside we aren’t.  Glossy life is natural outcome when the inner man is cleansed.

We have the will and the rulership of our life, nobody responsible for what happened with us, we ourselves have to make the boundaries.

Like a city that is broken into and without walls Is a man who has no control over his spirit ~ Proverbs 25:28

Your best life has a price. You have to make your body a temple of the Holy Spirit, not an entertainment center. Get your spirit unplugged and find yourself a champion in your society.

God wants us to prosper so we can be a generous person (John 3:2).  However, we might have to be careful, because money makes you different from who you really are.

Now he who received seed among the thorns is he who hears the word, and the cares of this world and the deceitfulness of riches choke the word, and he becomes unfruitful – Matthew 13:22

For most of men, they let money tell them what they can do, and what they cannot do. Generally there are 7 lies that money tells you.

Lie #1 : Money brings happiness and contentment

The world says: you work hard, pile up your money so you can have a good future, big house, pretty girlfriend, fancy car, famous friends.

The bible says: It is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35)

Giving and being kind to the poor bring you contentment and sense of fullness, it does not have anything to do with your money.

Lie #2: Money solves your great problems

The world says: if only. if only you have this amount of money, then you’ll get out from your problem easily.

The bible says: We live by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). We have to trust that God promise is real. His plan for us is the best plan way over our biggest dreams, as long as we love Him.

Your faith solves your biggest problems, your money doesn’t

Lie #3: Money is key to personal security

The world says: if you have money, then you can feel secure, because you can buy anything, pay everything, afraid of nothing.

The bible says: Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions (Luke 12:15).

Security is not measured by the size of men’s wallet, but the size of his heart

Lie #4: Money brings recognition that you always wanted

The world says: money build up connections, bring friends, establish network, and give you the taste of popularity.

The bible says:

Be careful not to do your ‘acts of righteousness’ before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

“So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full.  But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” (Matthew 6:1-4)

Those who desire to please God happily accept the rejection of others

Lie #5: Those who serve money never regret it

The world says: the richer you are, the more success you become

The bible says: Pile up treasure in Heaven. Keep track on where you treasure is, because where your treasure is, there’s your heart. (Matthew 6:19-24)

The greatest test man will ever face is the test of prosperity

Lie #6: Money can cover any compromise

The world says: you can always buy yourself out of trouble (you know what i mean, Indonesian)

The bible says: even the smartest man can’t stand strong when he let wealth and women creep in into his life. (1 Kings 1-11)

You can never compromise yourself into the way of God, no matter how rich you are

Lie #7: Money tells you to hold on to it

The worlds says: smarter people save more money

The bible says: One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty (Proverbs 11:24). Mind where you plant your seed, plant it in the good soil.

From time to time the rule of harvest is: the more you plant, the more you harvest

Once you know, my pray is that you won’t be deceived easily and you can be a generous person that God designed you to be.


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